If you worry about social reputation, you might date or look for casual hook ups further from home but don't have to wait until you are overseas. You can do weekend trips that won't require days off work. Leave Friday night and go to places few hours away in your state or other states near by. Unless you are a celebrity, no one will know you 2-3 hours drive, heck even one hour away bet no one knows there. Your dating life isn't ruined just because you can't go overseas.

Only in movies local girls show foreign guys around their towns. It might happen once in awhile in real life but it's very very unlikely. And they certainly wouldn't just do it because you are attractive. Why would they bother? I travelled all over the place and am social and look good yet no local people ever showed me around for no reason. It's not a common occurrence. Women wouldn't just approach you because you look good and start showing you social scene or hooking up with you. They will not.

No it's not wrong to want casual encounters at all. The issue is that you are upset you can't obtain it unless you go overseas. But you don't need to fly overseas for that and get upset that you can't. You can obtain it just few hours away from home if you want to be discreet.

And if you just want to travel for travel reasons, have you been to many states? You can start with that. You will not need long vacations if work isn't going to give you that. Start with short trips.

Hope your therapist suggest something good too