I shouldn't, but I've only divorced this year. It had nothing to do with ex until I found out her age. I divorced her because I couldn't allow myself to be abused by her any more, not because I wanted someone else.
I know I have some, in that dump trucks hold some pebbles, of anger, frustration, angst, damages, mental and emotional stuff to work through that's going to take hella long. I am truly angry at my ex. I have the right to be. Getting even isn't my goal, nor truly is it to anger her, because she's already transferred the stuff that was mine for all those years to my daughter. I just really want everything that isn't her. However, she started her psych team after I said it was over.
You are right that ticking her off shouldn't be a goal for me, and I agree. I could tell everything she did that I know but I'm wordy enough already. My memory is perfect on most things I should let go of first. Eh, I'll put it in my biography.