[QUOTE=s4ndm4n2006;5832747]It is? commonplace? No. You're gonna hear more about the situations where a male is an *** than you are about males that are good partners and stick around because being a good man and doing the right thing isn't "NEWS"... it's the way it should be.

The operative word here is "should". It is commonplace because, in my generation, men that are close in my age, behave in this manner and they think it is the right thing to do. Because the right thing to do for them is finding the "girl of their dreams" to settle down with. Anyone who does not fit this ideology is passed on, irrespective of the circumstances. The insane part of this is that this ideology can change any time. It IS commonplace that people ARE replaceable. Our generation, quite frankly, doesn't know how to FIX things the way our grandparents did in the early and mid 1900's. It would be nice to meet a man who defies this oddity.

""women are left making the ultimate..." no. my ex left 2 sons with me for 4 yrs to live with someone else in an entirely different state so yes, you can ask this from a gender neutral position because it really does happen.""

I'm referring to women making the decision to abort, adopt or deliver their baby when the man who got them pregnant runs off and decides to have no contact so that she cannot even discuss with him the options and what he wants or doesn't want. Clearly in this reference, his behavior shows he doesn't want the child and wants nothing to do with decision making or her. (Which is not only irresponsible, it's crazy.)

(Also, Sorry to hear of your situation. Must be hard!)