I'm no help. My wife isn't interested in talking about it. A couple of my kids are (one is an adult now, the other almost) as they also have some things to work through. But I don't have a local friend I can really talk to. Even my oldest good friend, who isn't local is not that great to talk to. He has been drinking and using too much for too long. So I feel your pain. I have my kids but don't want to burden them much. I try to do more listening than talking because that's my job in those relationships.