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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours
I think checking out other therapists can help in multiple ways -- when I checked out other therapists while seeing current T, I realized I wasn't likely to do much better (in this area) and so, back to current T I went.
When I checked out other Ts while seeing former T, I got a 'meh' feeling for the first couple, thought I could do okay-ish with one other and then felt a significantly (enough to switch) stronger 'yes' when I saw current T.
It was super painful to go through my life history in one-hour capsules but I'm glad I checked out other Ts every time I did -- if only to reinforce whatever decision I knew I needed to make.
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Yes, I know exactly what you mean by that last part--for the first half-hour with T2 last week, it was like, "Oh, I have to go through all this again, is it worth it?...," the sharing my life history thing. But I also found I was able to do so much more efficiently, since I've been in therapy--like I know what stuff I have to share because it's still affecting me and what I can leave out (at least for now). T2 even remarked on that, particularly on how I'd filled out the intake form.
Then about halfway through that appointment (was 90-minute intake), I started to feel more comfortable with him, and it was like, OK, this could maybe work. And then the insights he gave at the end were, well, rather insightful! Like he seemed to figure out stuff about me in one session that had taken T much longer. Granted, I was more direct and open with him, I think.
But it also made me realize that, even though I've been with T1 6 years, if I decide to switch to T2 for longer-term (not just a consultation), it's probably not going to take anywhere near 6 years to get where I am now. I'm not starting from scratch, I'm starting somewhere around the middle. I've already had some revelations and come to some realizations, so I can start where I am, not at the beginning.