IMO Honesty is the best policy. You, your husband, and your children need to have 'the talk' about what you are concerned about. If there's not a neutral setting for you to do it in I'd suggest some type of family counseling to help you discuss it in a guilt free zone.
Sadly, alcoholism can be passed on eiher by genetics or influences. These influences are not just from the home. It's in the people they hang with, live with, etc. Right now it's a part of college life.
Once you are able to have the 'talk' with your children their fate is then in their hands.
Stay strong-Be honest!

Best of Luck!!

Ocean

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....*deep breath*...... OK-- this is hard for me(as I don't feel so comfortable being this open)........

Well, I was wondering, does anyone know or have info on the age in which offspring aren't so influenced by the parents? is it 18 years old, or maybe 21 or maybe even 25??

I worry and well, maybe I shouldn't worry-- at least not for this reason-- that my husband is being a very bad example and might influence our college aged sons to think that being staggering drunk at home, nightly, is OK.

Could it be that they are past the age of critical influence? and maybe I'm worrying more than I need to?....... I sure don't want them to carry on like their dad is chances are they won't have a partner that puts up with it....... so this whole situation could be setting them up for failure.....

then I worry that I REALLY need to confront my husband in front of them so they can understand what it does to the person that is trying to keep "the boat afloat"... and if I don't then I am also enabling such behavior......

oh, this is such a difficult thing for me......... and with so much other stresses and stuff......... I worry that I'm not seeing things with the best insight......

anyone that can lend an idea, view or opinion... I'd be much appreciative.

thank you,
mandy (ps. yeah, for those that know me- I'm still hopelessly struggling with this...*sigh*.....)

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