Give your friend the benefit of doubt. She always wants to be there for you. She wants the very best for you. But try to remember she too may be dealing with her own issues. It might become hard on her sometimes to hear about your problems and she needs someone to lean on..however, she may not want to lean on your adding to your burdens. This doesn't mean stop talking to her. But to find a way to talk that let's her know you aren't expecting her to fix all the problems too. Take an hour a day or a day during the week to take her for coffee or something and tell her this date is all about her. It's her chance because she's always there for you. I know it's hard to find a way to do this. A good friend will understand and be there for you.

Peace & Love

Ocean

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My friend always tells me I can talk to her and stuff, but I know it's frustrating for her. I hate myself.. so much. She tries to tell me that she doesn't really understand why and tells me things she does like, etc., but I don't know. I think it's probably annoying that I just go on hating myself when she tries to show me there's no reason to. I can't just change my opinion about myself that fast, though.

Another thing is that I've hurt myself a lot in the past (cutting, drug abuse), and I did it again last night but I didn't tell her until after I was done with it and then I passed out afterwards so I didn't even really "talk" to her about it.. and I'm going to have to face it today and I'm nervous. I think she is probably mad at me for not telling her before I did it so she could have helped, but at the same time I think that whenever I complain about being depressed/suicidal I think I am annoying her.. because those conversations tend to be very selfish on my part and now it feels like I'm just.. I don't know.. I'm not going to kill myself no matter how suicidal I get, so I don't know why I should bother talking about it since I feel like I'm burdening and annoying her.

I just don't really know how to approach talking to her today.. any advice?

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