Count the days...In AA, newcomers start counting in multiples of days...30, 60, 90...Tell them you have 90 days if that's what it works out to! The day isn't as important as the commitment & the families of alcoholics view changing behaviors (such as seeking counseling/ meetings/tools) as being more important than time.

I can't count the number of times I said, "I'll never drink again!" Or the number of times when I'd accumulated a number of days of sobriety & said, "See I'm over getting drunk!" The important thing is changing behaviors; making them see how important sobriety is to you, & through continually accumulating sobriety, building trust - the absolute number of days won't matter as much to them as it does to us. I just know I treat my loved ones better now that I'm sober, and they see that. When I was drinking there were times when a 12 pack took precidence over my obligations to family. Please don't think I'm minimizing time sober (as I posted before accumulated time is EXTREMELY important for newcomers). However you're counting the days, I can tell from what you write that you're a different person than you were 90 days ago.