Anyone have the annoying experience of having someone or even a group fo people invite you to socialize with them, only to be shunned by them when you accept their offer? Do you know why this happens? How do you deal woth it? When it happens to me, it makes me want to ask them why they invited me if they didn’t want to talk to me in the first place. That is why I keep to myself a lot more now, basically regressing back to my older ways. I always have waited to be invited but I did start to get bolder and put myself out there.

Unfortunately it seems to backfire, both in social situations with friends and even coworkers at work. There has been times when I even said no in the past since I saw no point in joining their conversation if I was going to be shunned anyway. I now find myself regressing back to being more reserved and keep to myself more like I was before my college years. And for work situations, I am starting to only talk about work related stuff, nothing else like everyone else does. Are people doing that to be overly polite? It just seems like they are doing that out of pity or something. I find it very annoying and even a bit rude.