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Originally Posted by Bjørnen
I have to wonder if there is an expectation from those cliques that us reserved types will come more out of our shell when we go out with them. Years ago, I went along with a work group that invited me out, and at the end of the evening, one of my coworkers said he thought I would have opened up more. It wasn't particularly mean sounding, but I felt horrible.
So I do wonder if there's almost a sense for them that we pay a transaction. They invite us out, and in return, they expect us to loosen up more. I dunno. Just one of many theories. I'm at the same point you are, where I just stopped going out with groups. Give me a nice, quiet one-on-one any day.
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Yeah that is a good theory, and may be true for some groups. And yeah, I prefer one-on-one as well. If I am close enough with some people, than me and two, maybe three others are okay but other than that, just one-on-one. I have a couple friends but we never hang out as a group since they both hate each other now. They used to be friends years ago but not anymore. But yeah, back when they were friends, we would have a group of three, sometimes even four. But other than those times with them during my fourth year of college, I only preferred one-on-one interactions and pretty much isolated myself from cliques.