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Old Sep 26, 2017, 03:55 PM
rdgrad15 rdgrad15 is offline
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Originally Posted by justafriend306 View Post
I hate this, I feel for you.

I find myself in a group situation where I feel shunned on a fairly regular basis, only the invitation comes second hand, and often as an after thought. My boyfriend regularly attends functions or get togethers with members of a group to which he belongs. I am sometimes asked to attend outright but in most cases the invitation is assumed in that spouses and significant others are welcome to attend.

I loathe these occasions. I have nothing in common with these people. For the most part they ignore and talk over me. I have distinct differences with them and at times I cringe being around them even sometimes forcing myself not to cry in disgust. I am not sure what is the worst - being utterly ignored or feeling I must conform to fit in. It is not like I can continually not attend. As my boyfriend is vice-president of this club there is an expectation that I attend.
Yeah I hate those occasions too. It makes you be somewhere with people who you know for a fact do not want you around and it is hard to pretend to act like everything is okay. I see things for the way they are and just don't see the point in pretending things are okay at times, depending on the situation. If I know for a fact I am not wanted somewhere and I am able to leave without consequence or without any rides, then I just simply leave without much notice. I may give a quick wave and say bye if someone notices but otherwise I just slip away and no one notices or cares. I know they don't want me around so I will not force my presence on them. That is my train of thought.