Don't let their judgements bother you. For one, what people see on the outside maybe completely different then what is actually happening in the home. I wouldn't tell them anything personal about finances. Just them judging and blaming is probably a act of their abuse, but at this point the can't hurt you, your husband, or child....so let them talk all the crap they want. I deal with in laws and I have friends that deal with in laws...it's apart of life and marriage. I hope all gets better for you.