I think you are better than him. I know that you are better than him. I wish I could convince you of that truth.

Ya know, int he other thread you said you would never want to burden your children by going to them for help.

Don't you think it is a bigger burden to them for their mom to be in such horrible circumstances and not be allowed to help her? People want to help the ones they love. It pains them to see their loved ones suffering and be unable to do anything about it.

My mom went into renal failure and spent most of May in the hospital. I stayed with her the whole time and had to drop out of the semester to do it. Now, I hook her up to her dialysis machine every night, and unhook her every morning, and get her shower ready and carry stuff for her and bring her the things she wants and needs. I am not sure when I will be able to go back to art school because she needs so much help. Do you know how burdensome that is to me?

NOT AT ALL burdensome. She is my mom and I love her, and I am so glad I can help her. The worst part of her hospitalization is that there was nothing I could do to make her better. THAT was the burden watching my Mom suffer and not being able to do anything about it except hold her hand and love her.

If your kids are willing to help, let them. Not letting them is far harder on them than accepting their love and help.