I've been through this. Hypersexuality is my most destructive trait. For me, it is pure brain chemistry and a med adjustment is the only way for me to be normal again. It is also one of the most stigmatized traits. Advice like "quit cheating" is tantamount to saying "quit having hallucinations". I sincerely believe that only a p-doc can fix this.

I've also been married 23 years. I'm not sure how my wife was able to stay with me, but she did and I've been faithful and medicated ever since. If I start getting flirtatious with anyone, I go straight to the doctor and get my medicine adjusted. I don't play around with this.

You are not a bad person for this. You have my compassion.