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Originally Posted by golden_eve
My birthday is Saturday and I am becoming really upset. None of my friends are available to hang out that night, and now I worry I will have to be home all alone and I really don't want this nor know how to cope with it.
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I have spent many birthdays and holidays alone over the course of the last 10 or so years... It wasn't convenient for me to drive long distances to visit family on many of those occasions - plus I found myself gradually relinquishing my emotional attachment/investment to those particular days - so I had less and less of expectation of 'needing' to do anything 'special' for those dates... It's perfectly okay not to do anything special on any given day/date... Nothing wrong with that at all...
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Originally Posted by golden_eve
I want to celebrate! And with friends!!! I want to dance!!! The LAST thing I want is to sit home, bummed out on my Bday. My life is already a bummer these days, and I am hardly coping as it is.
ARGH GRRR ARGH GRRRR!!!!
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Dancing/Fun/Enjoyment/Celebration with friends can be had any time of the year! You don't have to wait for birthdays or holidays to plan such events/experiences... Do it a week before your birthday, do it a week after your birthday - it doesn't make a difference because the 'birthday' is really just an excuse to get people together for what should be a good time... So if your friends can't do anything on one particular weekend, just make plans to come together on another weekend.... What's most important is the experience that will be shared together - not the 'timing' of it....
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Originally Posted by golden_eve
How do I cope with being home alone on my birthday??!!?? I am starting to feel like I don't have enough friends to hang out with. I already feel bad about being my age and living with my parents.
This sucks.
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-How to cope? By reminding yourself that it's really just another day of the year in 'life' here on Earth - and that you do not have to attach
any expectations to that day... Unfulfilled expectations lead to disappointment, hurting, etc.... Recognize your role in contributing to that outcome....
-Don't feel bad about living with your parents. In other parts of the world there are many cultures where it is common for many relatives to be living under the same roof, well into adulthood. Even multiple generations (grandparents, parents, children).... People from those cultures would not find it questionable that you are living with your parents (at whatever age)... Not sure where you reside but our culture/society in the U.S. is toxic and imperfect in many ways... The 'system' is not designed in a manner that is intended to facilitate your well-being and 'success' - to make it convenient for everyone to thrive. The cost of living is extremely high and rising - and this means that more and more individuals are finding that they cannot 'live the American dream' that they were conditioned to believe in. There is absolutely nothing wrong with family supporting one another. It's not your life situation/circumstances that needs to change - but other peoples' ideas/opinions about what truly matters and is important....