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I do limit my intake and sometimes I don't touch it at all. I look at it as a take or leave situation.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Now that sounds like you are at a healthy place-- wish you could talk to my husband..... oh wait.. I guess that's my job, isn't it. ......

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Have a nice chat with your kids and then with the DH and see what can be resolved, otherwise an intervention with his parents may be necessary.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Well, I have had some surface type chats with my kids. And I have had some real deep, down to the point chats with DH-- to no avail. he apologizes and then a few days later....... we're right back where we started.... him staggering and me being so so very sad. About the intervention--- I don't believe his parents would agree to such a thing-- they worship him and won't hear of anything negative about him-- I have tried- in a "looking for advice" type way-- and they've told me to lay off-- that he is under a lot of stress and that I should feel sorry for him and ignore it....... but I can't! I don't feel it's in either of our best interests to ignore it-- nor for our sons. Maybe they think it will just go away...... I was hoping so too..... but I'm really having my doubts now.

bebop, He is hardly ever a "bad" drunk and so far he is still a functioning one-- though I'm not sure how much longer that will last. My sons really don't see too much negative in their father's behavior presently-- or am I just down playing it all?? been told by several specialist that I tend to minimize things too much.
I start feeling upset and then it's "numb city" for me, I don't mean to-- it's just the feelings and confusion get feeling like I'm in "overload", inside myself.

Thanks for your reply-- I know you've heard me "complaining" before-- sorry I've not solved this yet. *sigh*.......