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i'm really really surprised to see that a couple people here think about being hurt or raped in a sexual way. do you think its ok to think about that stuff? i thought i was real sick in the head for thinking it and tryed to not let myself think that stuff anymore. and i wanted to ask to, do you think its ok to look at gay pictures if your marryed?

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Funny thing, sexual thoughts, you can't always control them. But they're just thoughts. It's how you respond to them both inside and outside your head that matters. If these thoughts disturb you (or if the fact that they excite you disturbs you), or if you think they might cause you to hurt someone else, then these thoughts are terrible and need to be dealt with by a professional therapist. If, on the other hand, they're just fantasies and you feel ok about it, don't worry about it. They are just thoughts.

Is it ok to look at gay pictures (porn, I assume) when you're married? That depends on the marriage. If it bothers your wife, then it's a bad idea. If you're both ok with it, then knock yourself out. After all, it's better than going outside your marriage to work out these feelings. But again, respect your wife's wishes regarding material like porn as some find it very hurtful.

Cyran0