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Originally Posted by divine1966
What is somewhat unusual though that it causes you extreme depression and anxiety. It's somewhat unusual to be that depressed about being unable to go on vacation right now and having to wait till spring etc
Having to postpone a vacation due to work schedule or other obligations etc is fairly normal occurrence. Happens all the time. Your extreme reaction to it though appears to be out of proportion hence a suggestion about therapy (maybe you are in a wrong kind of therapy)or other treatments to help you deal with it.
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Yeah I could see how people would think this. But what's really going on is that I feel like I haven't had enough experiences for my age. I see all these people traveling in their early 20s and it makes me feel like I am behind. So having to wait another 6 months isn't just having to wait another 6 months, it's adding another 6 months to the already long time I spent not living my life to the fullest. It's not so much about being inpatient or unable to wait, it's more about feeling regret for letting so much pass me by.
And then of course there is also the anxiety about aging and how that will affect my social experiences while traveling.
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Originally Posted by divine1966
There is also absolutely nothing wrong with wanting or having sex or meeting people. I see no issue with it. I think it's somewhat an issue though that you aren't meeting people or having sex yet you are extremely upset about not doing it. So maybe not therapy but life coach could be of help? Somebody to help you with developing strategies?
I believe good therapist or life coach CAN help you to develop skills and strategies how to meet women.
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Actually my therapist suggested a life coach and referred me to one. However, it turned out he was in another state and was expecting me to do Skype sessions. He also charged way too much. However, my therapist actually said that she can't help with with skills for talking to women because that is not her area of expertise.