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Old Sep 28, 2017, 05:31 AM
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Originally Posted by Shadix View Post
Yeah I could see how people would think this. But what's really going on is that I feel like I haven't had enough experiences for my age. I see all these people traveling in their early 20s and it makes me feel like I am behind. So having to wait another 6 months isn't just having to wait another 6 months, it's adding another 6 months to the already long time I spent not living my life to the fullest. It's not so much about being inpatient or unable to wait, it's more about feeling regret for letting so much pass me by.

And then of course there is also the anxiety about aging and how that will affect my social experiences while traveling.


Actually my therapist suggested a life coach and referred me to one. However, it turned out he was in another state and was expecting me to do Skype sessions. He also charged way too much. However, my therapist actually said that she can't help with with skills for talking to women because that is not her area of expertise.
If this therapist can't help then look for a different one. You might need behavior therapy. And you can find life coach in your state, but I agree it likely won't be cheap

Feeling regret over something and worrying about aging isn't abnormal. But if it prevents you from enjoying your life and moving forward then it becomes, don't want to use the world abnormal, but let's say: concerning.

Honestly being able to wait for something and not lose one's mind over it is a sign of growing up. Not being miserable that other people have something and you don't is sign of growing up. Wanting something that you can't have is normal but accepting that you cannot have it right this minute is a sign of growing up.

If it doesn't come naturally to you, you mind need to look for better professional help or maybe more accurate diagnosis. Accurate diagnosis might lead to better treatment. Did your psychiatrist ever look into ASD for example?