Im sorry you're having such a tough time. My heart breaks for you. She needs treatment...whether that be IP or with a strong therapist. This has nothing to do with bad parenting or lack of discipline and everything to do with mental illness. She may need a different med combo although if she won't take them, I don't see the point. My concern is you and making sure you are getting adequate support in dealing with this and are taking good care of yourself. I hope you get some clarity on what your next step should be. Please keep us posted.