Not BPD but I know I personally had problems getting along with my parents & my H (ex now after tolerating it for 33 years). I got along with everyone else in my life without any problems.

It was just in the last few years trying to analyze & process what was wrong in my marriage for therapy that I found that both my H & dad had the same issues & symptoms & my mom.....well just total lack of self esteem or confidence but that was why she tolerated my dad & I didn't....nor my H....so yes, people can definitely have a serious effect on one's personality & how they get along basically with those people without it showing up with others.

I would imagine this is common in many more situations than we even could imagine....BPD included.