Dating is just working on getting to know someone else; you don't have to marry "again" that's a different piece of cake! Just having a guy to hang around with is not a bad thing (especially if they have some things they're handier with than you are; I'm thrilled with my husband because I don't have to do dishes very often :-) but if you're not interested or ready, you're not interested! What did she say when you told her you weren't interested that got you riled enough that you mention it? If it weren't wandering around in the back of your head you would just "shrug" rather than feel you have to defend yourself?