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Old Sep 28, 2017, 03:11 PM
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Originally Posted by yagr View Post
You've drawn the same conclusions that I did after reading your first post. The fellow is in banking and I'm assuming, since you referenced your twenties being 'back then' and that you are a good match, that he's not a kid, which means he's probably been in banking for some time. These folks tend to be very 'cross the t's and dot the i's' kind of folks. Routine is very important. So yeah, I would not be surprised that he goes to bed at exactly the same time every day, wakes up at exactly the same time every day - wouldn't be surprised if he sets his alarm on the weekends too.

If you too do move forward, do not be surprised if you play second fiddle to his routine. That's not necessarily a bad thing: i.e. Let's say you get married and prepare to live happily ever after and set up a date night for Friday nights. If he gets invited to the White House on a Friday night, he'll probably decline because it's date night and he's committed to his schedule. On the other hand, if you have an impromptu event that you want him to attend with you, but it falls on the night he does his laundry, he may struggle to justify breaking his routine.

Obviously, I don't have much to go on to come up with such examples, but that's the picture I got when you described what was going on.
All the more reason for me to have good boundaries and stick to my routine (if I had one, lolz).

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