Recently, this guy I reallly like (who is also a good friend informed me that I have too much self pity. I do. I constantly whine about myself and how pathetic I am and beat myself up in public. Even though I know not to do it, I can't stop. I get in situations and start rambling about how stupid I am or how fat I am, etc... and don't realize I am doing it until later. I am glad my friend commented on it . Others have said things to me but I never cared before until now. I don't want the guy I like to see me in that way. I cannot hold a conversation with someone without pitying myself. Please someone help me. People are beginning to shy away from me and I can't help but wonder if it's because I am so miserable to be around. No one wants to hear my crap and I know that but I still can't break the habit.