I understand about the emotional abuse because I'm going through the same thing now. He wants me at home doing everything and if I feel like I look ok or I'm feeling like doing this etc, he will bring me down to the point I no longer do what I normally would. years later he doesn't have to even say or do that much for me to just "give in".
I hope when I have the strength to actually leave, I won't continue the "giving in" and take this into another relationship. its baggage.
what new situations are you finding yourself in where you feel similar to how you felt in your relationship?? is it new relationships or day to day??