I was raised to put men/one's husband first. But that was old school :-) I don't think we're taught or given good examples of self care when we grow up? Our mother's are stressed and we pick it right up from them?

I still laugh thinking about the night I decided to give my husband the "smaller" piece of meat. That was a no-no in my stepmother's teaching, the "man" always gets the better/larger piece of meat! So, I'm cooking hamburgers and decide to give my husband the smaller one :-) It was causing me all sorts of anxiety as I'm carrying the plates to the living room so I told my husband my problem and he and I are laughing about it together and yet I'm still anxious! I have to fight to do something just for "me" but I manage nowadays.