My long-term S.O. is a "do-er." He's not an alpha male type or controlling...he likes handling things. He gets satisfaction in accomplishing things. He's way more organized than I am and he doesn't complain. (How?!)

He has scooped the three cat litter boxes, every other day for ten years. And our Maine Coons are 20 lbs...big fellas, lol. I've scooped maybe five times?

I handle all the laundry. He doesn't enjoy that task and I love doing laundry. A clean kitchen is very important to me, so I handle that, too.

He can make a bed with hospital corner sheets. lol he's a great guy. He does what he wants to do. He does the lion's share partially due to my chronic pain.

My stepdad was a hard worker at the office. My mom was house director and CEO. He would take care of things, but she would tell him what needed to be done. It worked for them, he is laid back and loved her. I did what I was told, respect my elders. We used to joke she'd be grabbing a dinner plate from us...we were still eating but she wanted those dirty dishes in the dishwasher, lol.

I think planning together and making a list of who handles what can help ... OP, perhaps that will get him going to pitch in? Open communication and how to fairly balance tasks....good to iron out now.