I had that life and I felt like I was living in jail without the bars. He wouldn't open up in marital counseling and flat out refused to continue after only two sessions. He was so controlling and my needs weren't important to him.

I left him after 18 years of marriage. A lot of people said they were so sorry we were divorcing, we were a great couple, and were sad for us. They had no idea. I felt really validated when my psychiatrist congratulated me when the divorce finalized.

I don't know if any of my post resonates with you. Trust your instinct. Have a safety plan. xo