Today, my son has been home two weeks. It was of his own doing but he lost everything on that trip out West and is starting over.

My H allowed him to come home partially for my sake but has been leery that he has changed his ways. He is wanting him to show a sense of urgency about fully supporting himself. I assume he is trying. H assumes he isn't.

H constantly questions me about what steps he is taking. My H's preference is that our son join the military. I agree this would be a good thing if my son was open to it. H and I served and so did our fathers. I don't regret joining the Air Force.

My son wants to go back to school and get a 2 year nursing degree. My H wants to tell him he has to the end of October to find his own place. Given my son has zero dollars that is a tall order. Twenty four hours after my son's return, there have been constant fights between H and I. I am told I am the reason for the situation my son is in. I am reminded of my mental problems including my attempt. But H seems more emotional than me much of the time about this and gets very angry if I say he is emotional. My life is tolerable when we put this issue on the backburner for a while but it has been constantly rearing it's ugly head. When it does, I am lectured for long periods of time and told that if I just do what I am told, he will solve the problem in regards to my son. I feel like my son's best chance for success is to feel supported for more than a couple of months. I am not comfortable with H's approach. He is not comfortable with mine. It is feeling like an unending purgatory on Earth dealing with this issue. I have no hope that we will ever agree or that it will ever go away. I cannot turn my back on my son and I cannot escape my H.....