All great thoughts - and thankyou all of you for thinking of me and offering support.

After reading your responses I have realised that it isn't just about him. I have very high personal standards and I suppose I fall into the trap of expecting those around me to have the same. Hence I get frustrated easily with what others do or in this case don't do. I struggle with the fact that others don't seem to 'get' it.

Yes, I am the 'doer' in the relationship. it is not to say I wear the pants and boot straps in the relationship but, yes, I am an alpha personality - I am guessing to a fault. And this is where my mental health comes into play and with it my problem thinking...

I think in black or white. I realise I am jumping to the conclusion that if he isn't pulling his weight now, he won't be later. I think catastrophically and 'fortune tell' the future. I am assuming the worst case scenario. I discount the positive. He is very much looking forward to this move. I forget he is as excited as I am. I am terrible for the 'Should' thinking. And so on and so on.

It is a struggle my friends.

I did speak up. I was careful not to say you should or you need. I worded it more as asking him what was his plan. "I don't have one yet." was his response. shudder