Both of them have hard feelings toward each other and rarely talk. When they do it usually blows up so I am left in the middle.

H was not a neglectful father. One good thing I did while my son was away was work on an album for my son that showed all the things H did with him growing up. He played with him all the time when he was little. Took him hunting, the major and minor league baseball games, fishing, Tball, volunteered at his high school all the time, etc. My son did have a positive reaction when I showed him the proof of all this.

My H is a detail oriented perfectionist and gets emotional when he thinks people are not acting right. Until our son proves himself to his dad, the standoff will remain. They are both to frustrated at each other to listen very well....