I always had an independent desire & wanted out of living with my parents by the age of 13 though because financially I couldn't I stayed with them until I was 21.

I love my parents but we got along much better with the distance between us. They always came with us on vacation because they didn't have money to vacation the way we did & we had a condo they could stay in with us. Two week vacation together was great....living together never worked well even when I went back for awhile when I separated from my H. Personality conflicts made it not work out well.

Each family, personalities & dynamics are all different. If your parents are enabling you to not become independent & learnbhowbto take care of yourself & learn life skills necessary to function on your own....then there could be an issue & it may be tied to your mental illness issues.

If you have the skills to take care of yourself if anything would happen to your parents & you are just doing it because you want to & it's a convenience.....there is no problem. You can still care for your parents & be independent. I have elderly neighbors who own a farm & their 59 year old unmarried son came & helped them on their farm every weekend.

You & your parents are the ones that both need to work through the situation. It reminds me of the possibility of being like a fairly old movie "Failure to Launch" where the guy was just so comfortable at home that he never wanted to grow up & be responsible. Only you & your family really know the situation that exists.