For starters, I'm not one of those men who complains/gets mad because his partner has lost interest in sex. Since my GF (been together 14 years) went through menopause, her libido is zero. It's been a few years since we've had sex. She says she just doesn't have those feelings anymore...not even through masturbation. While I've heard synthetic estrogen helps some women regain libido, she had fertility treatments when she was married (they use massive doses of estrogen), so her doctor said the use of estrogen for her puts her at an increased risk of cancer - which would break my heart.

I realize experiences may vary, but what have experiences been for those of you who have been through menopause? I've read that many women have an increased libido because they no longer have to worry about getting pregnant. However, asking other women about their sex lives after menopause is socially awkward/inappropriate in my opinion. I would never leave/cheat on her because our love runs deeper than sex. Lately, however, she seems like more of a best friend than a true partner.