My heart goes out to you. It really difficult for a partner when the other one's libido crashes and burns.

I don't think menopause was a direct reason that my libido went down. I think it was from the extreme depression I fell into and the antidepressants which murdered any lingering libido.

Have you talked to your girlfriend about how you feel? That you are not pressuring her but that you miss the physical intimacy? Has she seen a doctor about this? Hormones aren't the only avenue of help available. There could be physical reasons as well as mental/emotional reasons. Some doctors are even prescribing viagra off label to women to help with libido.

Some post menopausal women develop thyroid issues that mess with libido. Also I think we go through a period of mourning our youth and we feel like an old crone. Not very sexy.

For some reason my libido seems to be coming back. It's been a few years since I passed menopause. Now I view myself as more of a silver fox, than an old hag, but it took a while to get comfortable with myself.

Every woman's experience with menopause is different. Feel free to ask me any questions. I'm not shy about it. Good luck to you and your lady love.