I miss certain aspects of my ex, even though the divorce has been final well over 6 months. This is the first I've realized that I do in fact miss her at all. I have no idea why I miss those aspects, because they were non-existent. I suppose it's the ideal her, which I held even though she wasn't that at all. I don't like thinking about her at all because she makes me depressed when I do, because there's no chance ever for her to be near those ideals.
Any help for breaking this cyclical fantasy thinking? Am I to be doomed with this? I know, I know, the therapist-mandated mantra, "I will release the thoughts to live in the present," but it doesn't seem to apply here, though it somehow probably does. I have no idea.