Dear Blue,
I'm still kicking this around days later. Why? Because it is a betrayal, and I'm very familiar with betrayal.
My mother betrayed my father, brother, sister and me countless times over the years. You never get used to it and, eventually, you stop trusting what anyone says or does.
I try not to let others dictate my emotions and actions, but it is hard, as everyone here knows.
Don't let that man, that stranger, control your feelings. Take them back. He isn't worth your investment in him. He isn't fit to lick your boots.