Certainly doesn't sound healthy! Other than him manipulating you and bullying you, what keeps you with him?

Usually the next step is separation, that means you finding safety and I think at this point this is a must. Divorce is better sorted out from a distance and through the right channels. There are a lot of people who separate and then take time with the divorce. Safety for you is a must particularly with you having to live in such fear all the time. Get out as soon as!