I started using tinder a while back and got some matches. The past couple days I finally decided to summon up the courage and message some of them. A couple of them responded and we exchanged a few messages. What I am finding is that I have this constant fear that they are only talking to me to be nice and that by talking to them I am putting them in a position where they feel pressured to talk to me because they don't want to be mean. This causes me to feel ashamed and insecure about what I am doing. Yes it's true that these girls liked my profile and swiped right, but what if after interacting with me they find me unappealing and they change their minds about me? How do I overcome these feelings? Should I even be trying to overcome them? On the one hand, it is really preventing me from having experiences with girls, but on the other hand, it may also be preventing me from being "that guy."