so a friend that has known me for 5yrs...has been warned time adn time again by me of my personality disorder has suddenly deicided its to controlling...I agreed with her even though feeling that one word is rather harsh regarding the 5yrs we've been friends...and told her that there was a time she enjoyed it even....now suddenly its not working for her...fair enought shes entitled to her boundaries...now I feel afraid that I may get into another relationship and have the same thing happen...I've heard the word control so many times but am struggling trying to understand it....how does one stop it? ...I don't want to control but don't know any other way of being.