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Originally Posted by Patagonia
"It can help to schedule weekly sex," he said. "Knowing that sex will occur may help the low-desire partner to turn themselves on in preparation, like they probably did when they were dating. It may also help reduce the high-desire partner's anxiety about the next time they will have sex."
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I can't think of much worse, how to take the joy out of sex in one go.
For me I just think people get too hung up on sex as some sort of thing separate from just relating to one another in many different ways, physical and emotional. We create these stupid artificial distinctions between foreplay and sex, as if sex is about the end point and not the process, and as if sex has to be one complete act rather than maybe lots of little things at different times depending on feeling. It makes it all about 'having sex' rather than sustaining the intimacy, mutual pleasure and joy in a relationship - no wonder there's so much guilt involved, it's all so compartmentalised.