Hi Perna.. thanks so much for responding. My tears are not because my son was arrested. They flow because I am overwhelmed. Lots of activity from Thanksgiving to Christmas. Lots of people and cooking and of course lil puppy. All was positive activity. Just when it was all over and quiet settled in, then this with my son..

Actually, "maybe for the first time", my son was not being disorderly on the sidewalk. Although he was holding onto a pole to keep from falling. He said he saw the police across the street and he wasn't stupid to do anything foolish to get their attention..

I was watching my son's pugs and one pug started puking and I got concerned and called my son's girlfriend to come over to check out the dogs. My son was home and sleeping off being drunk and wasn't answering his phone. She came over and told me that they had "not" been fighting that night. Actually AJ was behaving because usually he gets obnoxious when he drinks. She said she walked over to the cabs to see if any was for them and when she went back to AJ, he was being arrested.

AJ's dad picked him up when he was released and they did talk on the way home. AJ did admit he drank way too much and was in the wrong for getting so intoxicated,

I don't approve of people getting so drunk they can't stand up. What purpose is it to be so drunk when you don't even know what is going on around you? And is it worth it, the hangover the next day? I have often mentioned to my son that if he does drink, to limit it to one or two drinks for the night. To be honest, I don't want him drinking at all because he can't control the amount he drinks.

My son doesn't want to talk to me about this situation. He gets angry evey time I try talking to him. He is even angry that I called his girlfriend to help me with the pugs. He is upset she was here.. I told him I needed her help with the dogs. And I appreciated the fact she came over and even spent the night.

I pray my son stops drinking and learns something from all of this. He is 26. Time to use better judgment. I guess that is why I am always praying for my son and his girlfriend. Because they don't always make "wise decisions". And the only thing I can do at this point is pray and let God be in control.

Perna, you are soo right. If someone had staggered into the streets and hit by a car, my son would have not been in any condition to help. Or if anything happened to his g/f ,he would not be able to help.

TY so much for responding. Is always good to read another's perspective. Lots of wisdom in your post. I should save it and and few days from now, give it to my son to read. Maybe he too, might see your wisdom since he doesn't "hear" me..