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Originally Posted by daisydid
First session with Potential New T today. Overall I wasn’t impressed. Unfortunately she’s not RoboT.
Started out asking me the basics. Appetite, sleep, suicidality, why therapy?
We delved into my history like, only surface level. She likes to focus on the present. I get that. I agree to an extent, but I also feel like she needs to know how my past influences my present. 
Talked about work, mainly because I had an awful day at work. There’s this one student this year who triggers my imposter syndrome to the max. So we talked about looking at them objectively. They have needs met by demoralizing me. Okay.
Talked about my incredibly low self worth. She brought up my husband a lot in that conversation. Recommended that I validate internally instead of seeking his validation externally. “I must be lovable. He really loves me! If he loves me, I must be lovable.”
Then she wanted to know about my perceived strengths. She said it was obvious that I’m highly intelligent, and it was likely my intelligence that helped to keep me...functional?
Mostly there was a lot of awkward pauses and me unwilling to open up. I know that the deck was stacked against her, so I’m going to give her one more chance. But if I had to make a decision today or if another more appealing clinician turned up? I’d be gone. |
I'm sorry you didn't feel that connected to her. But I'd definitely give her a second session. I feel like the first intake session is often just getting the basic info about a client.
Out of curiosity, was it the typical 45-50 minutes or longer? I liked that my intake session with T2 was 90 minutes--let me get past the initial nervousness and feel a bit more comfortable with him. I was definitely very unsure the first 30-45 minutes. But then later in the session I felt more comfortable and liked him in second session. It can be difficult getting used to a different therapeutic style, or even just someone else's pacing when they talk (T2 seems to talk in a slower, more measured way--while MC talks pretty fast much of the time--I guess T1 is in between).
I'd keep looking in the meantime, in case this new T doesn't end up working out, or if you find someone who is a better fit.
I think what's different in your situation compared to mine is that you still mostly liked RoboT, so probably want someone like him, where I'm feeling dissatisfied with T1, so want someone different.
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