Ocean,I don't think you and my friend are alike at all.I have another friend who has a very serious illness-this year,she wasn't able to get me a card or present but that didn't stop me giving her them,just as I always have,and always will.That's because she is a fantastic ,caring person who shows me she cares regardless of sending cards and so-on.The friend I'm talking about here is different-if she really wants something(or needs to do something to get her needs met),then you can be sure she'll do it,go to the ends of the earth to do it!-therefore,whilst she might have mental health problems,she's not incapable of doing things,she just does them when it suits her.There's a world of differnece between,you,the caring friend I've spoken of and the (former) friend this thread is about.