Chocolatelover,that was a lovely post and I've read it several times.It sounds to me that there's a big difference between you and my friend-you behave the same with everyone-my friend says she "can't" do things but then she can (with certain people,to get her needs met),if she so chooses.That's what makes me take her behaviour personally and be upset by her lies.If she treated everyone the same way,I'd feel differently about it.