I've been with my SO for 23 yrs & my weight has ALWAYS fluctuated. I used to be able to buy right off the rack many yrs ago, but not anymore.
Two yrs ago I started to lose weight very slowly & now I've plateaued. I started to look at my clothes very differently. Last yr I did a major purge of clothes that were hand me downs mostly from my SO bec they were very big & other clothes given to me from other family members that were getting rid of stuff. I didn't really like the clothes but felt obligated to take them.
So I got rid of everything that didn't fit, was really big & stuff I didn't like. It didn't leave me with much. I'm very picky about what goes into my "wardrobe" now. I don't wanto look frumpy anymore. I'm tired of people giving me their crap "they were going to donate anyway." Now I do appreciate it, but that's a double edge sword.

I've always explained to my SO that I'm picky about my clothes & the fit. But he just doesn't seem to listen to me. I know on the surface he means well, but really HES NOT LISTENING TO ME!
I'm especially picky about my workout clothes & ive been trying to find a few new pieces. I've told him that I really can't buy online bec of fit. But I do try stuff on every once in awhile & I keep looking for exactly what I want. I just don't feel obligated to buy something just to have it. It has to be something that I really want & really fits well.
So yday he comes home with 2 pairs of workout pants for me, 2 different sizes to cover the bases. I feel like he's saying "there I fixed your problem." He's a fixer, typical male.
Yes it's a very nice gesture & I should appreciate it BUT he said he only bought it bec it was on the deep deep discount pile. He's extremely frugal! He said to try them & of course it's not what I want or the fit I want. So I feel obligated to keep them. I don't want them!

Now this isn't the first time. He does this a lot. I've come across things he bought me that r so discounted that when I can't fit in them they can't be returned so I have stuff that has tags on it.
He did this last yr with a winter coat. He found one he loved. I've been looking for a new one but again I'm picky about what I want. He kept telling me about how great his jacket was. Then at the end of winter he buys one for me. This is after I told him I liked his but it's not what I wanted for myself.
I know that he loves to buy things on sale!
But then I'm stuck with it.

He bought me a cute dress for Xmas last yr. when I tried it on there's a keyhole in the back & he said he didn't like that my bra was showing. The dress fell to my mid thigh so I put on a pair of boots & he said it would look better with pants on under the dress.
I never wore the dress. It still has the tags on it.

He'll do something like this with groceries. We keep a running list on our phones. I put on the list some very specific items. He'll buy something that is close to that. When I point it out, that it's not the same, he'll just tell me to use it anyway. Like I should b grateful he got it in the first place.

So part of me thinks I should just be appreciative. He buys me things. And I feel that posting this, those are the responses I will get. But can anyone see my pov & what I'm getting at here?

I constantly feel like I'm not heard!! I don't matter! Im not valued. I'm background noise in this life.