Fluff, your right it's all me! As for talking about how we interact, no we have not had open dialog about this. I expressed once during a session that I was frequently confused about how to properly "do therapy" and if I was participating properly. I once wrote her asking her to clarify a few assumptions/expectation I wanted to make regarding our interactions. Some of them were obvious but she was nice enough to go one by one and affirm that each one individually. For some reason I needed to hear it. Other than that we've never talked about what she was doing, what I'm supposed to be doing, if it seemed to be working well. I have said that I noticed a benefit. As for asking for a sample of the warm and fuzzy, NO WAY.

I liked your T's idea for you to write something down that you couldn't say in the session. I kind of do this in my journal after a session. Just for me to explore on my own.