Personality-wise, we have always been so different. I don't expect to have an intense emotional bond with her. But I also don't expect her to lack common courtesy. If I heard that her husband were very ill, I'ld call and express concern. But, then, I'ld probably not hear. She does not confide in me. Her reasons are good enough for her. But I don't want the annual gift ordered from an online gift site. I don't know what she means to convey with these gift-deliveries.