I haven’t ever felt that way, Rose - I’ve had “money in the bank,” but I don’t base anything on ones wealth or lack thereof.

I can tell you, I’ve seen a lot of people that are wealthy get very passive-aggressive and competitive about who has the nicest, most stuff....like the late model luxury sports car, the designer clothes, the private “elite” schools. I used to live in one of those neighborhoods and just couldn’t connect with the community.

Post-divorce and disabled—I live in a different neighborhood and I’m just fine. You are, too.

Money does not equate happiness, it doesn’t. It does permit you to have a lot of experiences like traveling, which can be interesting if you like it. It means you can go to fine-dining restaurants, which can be quite good...but extremely expensive. I like spas...pampering massage, etc.

But, the above are wants, not needs. I’m glad I was able to do those things but I’m not better than anyone else. One of my favorite things to do is go to the library. Love to read and I always have a stack of books.

My relationship with my partner far surpasses my ex-H. He’s still in the fancy house and trying to keep up with the Jones’. I have unconditional love with my partner, it doesn’t matter we are both disabled and don’t make large salaries anymore. Money is not that important other than financial security for sanity’s sake....but many people don’t realize it. I hope that helps.

Also, isn’t it pretty ... well, almost taboo isn’t the word. One’s financial means is personal. If someone talks about their finances, that’s different. But you don’t need to discuss yours.

I think you should reach out and call your family, say hello and catch up! I do. xo