In my nearly 27 years on this planet, I have yet to experience the death of a close (note the term, "close") family member or friend.

Now, I have two close family members, and one of my only friends on this planet, dying of cancer. My friend is terminal and has three months, if he's lucky.

I am hopelessly unprepared for his death. I'm looking for all of the advice I can find on how to deal with loss, as free and clear of platitudes and religious sanctimony as possible.