I will reluctantly go along - then be resentful at the snubbing that ensues.

There are things I am invited to by proxy. I mean I am expected to attend or the invitation is understood as for all. I hate these situations. I have nothing in common with the other individuals and it is often painful - especially when some of these people represent everything to me that is foul in this world. It is all I can manage to keep my mouth shut (imagine being a person who upholds equality for all who is stuck in a room full of outrageously vocal homophobic, religiously intolerant, white nationalists). It is agony.